Recently, I hosted an in-person Find Your Word workshop at LEAD Filipino’s Annual Event, the Fly Pinay Leadership Summit. A bunch of chatter showed up because this was the first in-person coaching workshop I’ve ever done for my practice after launching it in October 2022. I’ve delivered coaching workshops online over the last two and a half years, and I didn’t know if I could migrate the content displayed through shared screen systems into a live and personalized format. I had a two-to-three-week lead time to move this online version to in-person and wanted to share the Top Three Tips I learned in this experience.
1.Focus on your Content.
When your focus moves to worrying about logistics, conditions of the room, attendance, and event details, you are shifting some of your creative energy from your workshop to the presence you will bring to your attendees. Be sure to check into any facilitator meetings that will give you an overview of what you need to know around the event, obtain answers to your questions, and follow up on all the essentials that will set you up for success. You don’t have to sweat the small stuff. (Yes, I am a big fan of Richard Carlson’s Book Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff). Sweat about the stuff that is in your control. Your content and your presence.
2. Embrace Improvisation
I’ve had the good fortune of being around a creative partner who has studied and does improvisation. Watching his journey from novice student to steady performer and integrating improv into other activities gave me an opportunity to embrace some of the principles from that world. Some of which helped me in being present in front of people instead of a screen. If you have an opportunity to check out a local improv troop, do it!
If not, check out this video from a Bay Area Local's Live Clickbait.
3. Pre-Workshop Packing
Just like any other trip, move, or special event, making sure you have all your workshop materials is an important component in creating ease for moving from one physical location to another. The goal we are looking for is preparation. Not just in equipment but also in mindset. Preparation is all about opportunity meeting luck; consequently, practicing mindfulness in the preworkshop packing step offers us a chance to perform a “run of show” like exercise the day of our event.
I hope these tips help you in your next in-person workshop event. As you try these out for the first or third or tenth time, you will discover new things along the way. Pause and reflect on these key learnings and I encourage you to continue fine tuning your experience, so each workshop improves over time.
Accountability is a hot topic for people. People want it. People crave it. It is a great system to ensure that you follow through on plans, commitments, goals, outcomes, results, habits, rituals, and so much more. I remember being bitten by the accountability bug. So much so, that I almost started marketing myself as an accountability coach. But I paused. Because I love a good pause…and I wanted to dig into what does accountability really mean?
According to Merriam-Webster, accountability is defined as the quality or state of being accountable especially : an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions. What’s your energy like as you read that? Remember, where energy flows attention will go. Take a minute to unpack what this definition or other definitions of accountability means and how that model can work for you…because in the end, being accountable is a path to getting something done. It is a system or a tool that follows up this question, “Did you do what you said you would do?”
For some people, rigorous accountability systems can work. Whether you call this type of system prescriptive, specific, task master-ish, or in-your-face, having someone or something ping you, ding you, or sting you can work towards the type of change, outcome, or transformation that you are hoping to see. Can you think of a time when you were being held accountable by someone or something related to a deliverable or task? What was that like for you? In areas of leadership, the Harvard Business Review found that over 80% of managers feel they had zero ability to hold people accountable and that is the very thing the organization needs in leaders. The article goes on to give recommendations on how to overcome that challenge in a workplace setting. In areas of our personal goals – like with New Year’s resolutions, various studies show an 80% drop off rate within 90 days of the new year. Discoverhappyhabits.com published a breakdown in 2022 that shows various statistics over the years on the drop off rate, where resolutions are focused, and what a person can do to not be a part of the 80% and stick with these resolutions into April and beyond. These articles are great at breaking down the issue and offering tips. What matters is, when it is time to meet the moment, do you? And more importantly, how are you being as you do?
Often, coaching clients request support on being held accountable. They describe experiences of overwhelm, being stuck, not knowing what to do next, or I did it and now what. There is a sense that being held accountable is something relieving or a balm to what the real underlying issue may be. Quite often, the system, solution, person, or community is considered a solution to addressing the underlying issue of what is getting in the way. However, it is the system, solution, person, or community that is part of the journey in getting something done along the way. For example, you can tick off the to do list with a YES I DID THAT energy in your checkmark, but how did you do it? Was it with a begrudging energy that was suppressing your creativity? Was it with a driven energy that took so much time because you lacked focus? Was it a lonely energy because you were too proud to ask for some support? You got it done, but you got it done in a way that wasn’t aligned to your core values. What if you shifted your perspective just a little bit? What if you can align one of your core values into your accountability needs? This is the sweet spot in making your accountability system just a little more potent. It’s like sticking the landing every time you do a cartwheel. As you are tumbling through the action, you land with a YES I DID IT with heartfelt aplomb. A step to discovering the solution may be asking this question, “What does accountability mean to you and how does that connect to one of your core values?”
When I pause and reflect on what accountability means to me, it is knowing that I did do what I said I would do. It is acknowledging the effort, the habit, or routine that allowed me to experience something that is meaningful to me. It isn’t a task or to-do item. Sometimes, it is the smallest step or action towards something bigger, grander, and part of a larger story that I am hoping to leave behind. This is quiet work. The small wins of the day where there is no crowd cheering for you and where you may be the most powerful force to see that you followed through on something. There is an energy to the idea of “being held accountable.” It is a closed energy that staves off growth or an opportunity to knowledge share. It is the “do as I say, not as I do” vibe that drops in and when it drops in, there is a weight to it that signals “DANGER” which then kicks up the fight or flight response in our brains. What happens next? We look for safety, comfort, and certainty – which leads us back to where we started, a desire to be held accountable by something or someone.
Allow your core values to be a part of your accountability model. One of the most accessible tools in defining your core values is Brené Brown’s Core Values Sheet. I believe we are all equipped with the inner wisdom to know what works for each of us. It’s a matter of pausing and reflecting to see it and line it up. Given enough practice, we offer ourselves a chance to demonstrate that core value over and over again. It is the art of our own being.
It is a mastery of oneself.
According to a 15 month study commissioned by Field Trip Health Ltd and completed by YouGov Pls, the results released in 2021 outlined the following statistics:
These are just a few notes on mental health issues and as we continue to move to what the next normal may look like, we carry the key learnings of the pandemic with us. During months of shelter in place, mental health surfaced for our communities to look at. The isolation, the uncertainty, the despair, and the looming dread has had an impact on every individual on some level. We have yet to see the full breadth of COVID 19’s impact.
It's these types of statistics that has caused a waiting list for mental health professionals, a need for more access to mental health resources, and interest in augmented systems of support like coaching. Here are two ideas to assist you in discerning the difference between coaching and therapy.
In therapy, a licensed professional works with people in looking at past events related to trauma, emotions, and other psychological impacts to offer a space for recovery. This process involves a diagnosis and possibly a treatment plan.
In coaching, a certified professional works with people in looking at the present and future in supporting people towards the outcomes and results they wish to see with action. There is no diagnosis, and the client is supported in seeing what is next for them to do.
As a person who has participated in therapy and coaching (which means I was a patient and client respectively), I can share my experience in offering some information around the differences between the two. The gift of therapy came in the form of a statement. In 2003, after spending many months at work voicing my frustration with my job, my life, and the stagnant progress of my career, my desk mate said to me, “The help you need, I can’t give you.” and she slipped a piece of paper across the desk and it had the toll free number to the Employee Assistance Program where we worked. This moment impacted my life in such a big way because it allowed me to ask for help related to events in my life that included losing a parent in a car accident, losing four loved ones in twenty years, and relationship red flags. There was a lot to process – guilt, shame, survivor’s guilt, anger management, abandonment issues and whatever else the therapist thought I had to work on – and I didn’t even know where to start.
During these sessions, I was able to work through my undealt feeling of loss that occurred in 1987 when I lost my mom in a car accident. The sadness in not being a better daughter for her while she alive. Not learning how to cook her best dishes, not learning more about her and her history, and for living through the car accident while my dad lost the love of his life in that same event. It was in the early 2000s where I finally had the courage to look at the sadness and the weight, I was carrying for over half my life. It was happening at the right time because I was embarking on the possibility of moving from a non-management role to a management role and entering into a serious relationship that I hoped would lead to marriage. There was a lot to review from my past. The push to not be a problem for my dad which meant striving for better grades, going to a university, and not having wasted a life that could have been traded in for my mom’s. The pressure and the feelings of unworthiness kept creeping in and I had a hard time moving past those events which meant I wasn’t always secure in my relationships with people or confident with my work 100% of the time. At times, this chance to live felt like it was being wasted on someone like me…when if I could, I would have traded places with my mom so my dad could have had that happy life of retirement he had planned with her and that my brother could have more time with someone who wholly understood him in a way that no one else could. There was no doubt in my mind that my mother’s life was more valuable than mine. She had been here for 47 years. She chose to marry someone and emigrate to America. She chose to become an American citizen while faithfully supporting her family in the Philippines through letters, remittances, and visits the minute we moved closer to the country. Her warmth, her demeanor, and her smile was always what helped someone feel seen and supported no matter where we lived – and we lived in many places due to our family’s life in the military. From California to Virginia and Guam, she traveled coast to coast while shepherding her children through this Filipino-American experience with little knowledge or training. What she did have, her street smarts and her undeniable resourcefulness to create a loving life and memorable life for all who met and knew her. The guilt for living a life that paled to her contribution and the shame for living broke me down in ways I never fully understood until I went to therapy and it allowed me to heal with direction and guidance from someone who gave me cognitive tools to address the trauma and emotions that pulled me into behaviors that I didn’t always understand – like coping mechanisms that drove me to work long hours and have co-dependent relationships.
We spent a tremendous time discussing feelings. Feeling unloved, unwanted, unneeded, and how that led me to more feelings and to more feelings. For three years, I looked at all my feelings and it allowed me to recover and repair things about my choices and the ultimate lesson I learned, was that everything had a beginning and an end.
I entered my second round of therapy ten years later – this time related to issues around my weekend warrior drinking. In this therapy sequel, I spent time in outpatient rehab, time in AA meetings, and group therapy to work toward my sobriety. When the familiar feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and feeling less than cropped up, I lost the handle hold of cognitive tools and found myself placating these emotions by dulling them, ignoring them, not acknowledging them, and inevitably, old wounds reopened and new ones formed. I spent a solid nine months finding better support models and reacquainting myself to the emotions I thought I never had to meet up with again. I had thought therapy was a one and done experience and it was incredibly helpful to experience it again and understand that this was just another beginning and another ending to my healing process – all in time for me to conceive my first child and be in a better mental state for her arrival in 2011.
In 2016, after my second child was born I was at a crossroads in my career. I’ve done a lot of healing and understood that I will always be in recovery – and that’s ok. The idea that everything has a beginning and an end registered in my brain. What I wasn’t seeing was everything in the middle. It’s similar to the idea of what is on one’s headstone – there’s your birth year, the year you die, and then the dash -- everything that happens in the middle of those dates. In the middle of those dates are cycles of beginnings and endings, and I was curious about the wondrous middle…the happenings of the middle and how I could spend my time looking at my career with my family in mind so I don’t fall into the pitfalls of guilt, shame, or overworking myself again. I was seeing possibility in a life that felt more integrated with where I was at in my life – a partner, mother, hard worker, and someone wanting to move forward in a healthier way. This was when I signed up for coaching and I immediately noticed differences between therapy and coaching.
In coaching, I was supported to see my own answers. To tap into my inner wisdom and see what is really true about me, my core values, and where I derive meaning into my life. I had space to drop into different perspectives and own the chatter – the stress, fear, doubt, and worry – that clouds my next movement or action. I was able to spend time to clear up things about my life that was unfinished and create space for the things I wanted most – to connect with more people and create community. I designed an action plan for myself and when I was hesitant or unsure, I had the time to really look at it in a way that wasn’t tied to the past and more tied to my present moment and where I would like to be.
The tools I received during this time is a guidance system to where my life’s path is headed. Over the years, I’ve cultivated a practice that works for me, and the beauty of coaching is, every individual has a chance to iterate and develop what works for them. We are all built with the inner wisdom to know what is right for us. For me, this meant elevating my journal practice in an agile and iterative way. I practice pause and reflection which allows me to trial and integrate tools in two-week sprints. These time frames allow me to consider the enhancement and improvements that I am seeing with how I am showing up and meeting different moments of my life. It has also allowed me to deepen a longstanding mindfulness practice in a deeper and intentional way. Plus, I discovered my inner athlete and found the virtuous cycle of training and racing around road running and trail running a helpful reprieve from a sedentary work week.
We are tooled up, app’d up, resourced up’d, and trained up to do what we need to do 75%-90% of the time. It’s that last stretch of moving from that vision into tangible outcomes and results, that’s where coaching comes into play. As a mindset and life coach, I am the human gap solution to supporting clients in crossing that last 15%-20% stretch.
Being a part of someone’s well-being journey means ensuring that coaching is coming in at the right time. Sometimes, healing needs to take place before coaching. Giving yourself the time to heal from shadows and the roots of things is important to begin seeing the clarity in what’s ahead. Sometimes, you can heal and do coaching at the same time. This intersection is handled with care between clients and their licensed therapists -- and coaches will follow the lead of the client when it comes to running these two paths at the same time.
Wherever you may be on your mental health journey, please know you are not alone. We are undergoing unprecedented times of uncertainty and the courage you are taking to support your brain health, heart health, mental health, spiritual health, and overall well-being is something to be celebrated.
I celebrate you and the steps you are taking each and every single day.
If you are looking to discover if coaching is coming in at the right time for you, please go to my contact page and book a complimentary discovery session with me.
After two decades of therapy untangling survivor’s guilt, anger management, and co-dependency, I was entering motherhood in a way that didn’t carry all the emotions of the past into it. Naturally, the emotions and the memories of the past show up and when they did, I had just a little space to step towards that instead of the pitfalls of guilt for living through a car accident when my mother didn’t and judgment for people who are present when my mom was not. I really wanted things to be different. I was tired of the emotional swings that went from abandonment to success or from grief to devastation. There was a desire to be more present to myself and to my two young children at the time. With enough tools to describe what I was feeling and managing my emotions, I discovered there was something else I needed…some other tools or support that could offer me clarity on what’s next.
Basically, I’ve healed. Now what?
Taking Action...what a concept. The Oceans series always had me enthralled with the grandmaster plan making and then the curveballs thrown the team's way and when it was time to execute the plan, the team did it. In Ocean's 8, the cast was an ensemble of women and they delivered a high and tight heist in during a Met Ball Gala. High fashion, high stakes, and high levels of attention towards all the details to make the plan work.
When Sandra Bullock's character -- Debbie Ocean (Sister of Danny Ocean - played by George Clooney) outlines how long it took for her to prepare the plan mentally, I have to appreciate the focus. As her character serves her sentence, she played the long game in squaring up business for herself and for her old and new found associates. This project required her to tap into some energies - time, creativity, movement, and relationship - and as she dreams of this heist, she makes moves all along the way to make it happen. When she describes the plan in more detail to the team, they are astonished with her version, and yet, are clearly in the game with her.
Each actress imbued their character with purpose and collectively, they wanted to make this plan work. As a viewer, we experience the worry, fear, and thrill all along the way. There wasn't time to sit in doubt, there was only room to say or do what was needed to meet the objective and with each objective came progress towards the finish line.
What can help you take action?
How much time are you willing to spend dreaming before taking action?
I'm interested to know about what finish line you are seeing.
Leave me a comment or schedule time to chat!
Keep looking, learning, and moving on.
*credits to IMDB and Fandango Movie Clips respectively
Pause and Reflection is an important tool in life and mindset coaching. It is a practice that taps you out of the action and into self-inquiry, awareness, and noting what is coming up for you at that moment. When you are in the thick of things in life, it can be challenging to notice the ideas, the lighthearted moments, the things you would like to improve, and perhaps some choices you need to make. It's so much easier to be distracted and keep it moving isn't it?
In the spirit of distraction and in anticipation for the new movie, The Matrix Resurrections coming out in December, I did a rewatch of The Matrix and it remains (for me) a pretty revolutionary movie when it premiered. Bullet time, stop motion, and the cool cinematography set it apart. The story rolled the coolness of technology with the dangers of it into one. I still appreciate the core message from this first installment, What happens when we lose human connection or when machines evolve faster than humans do?
One of the things humans can do, is pause and reflect. When Neo is having his first experiences in a new world with a new companion, he is enthralled with everything around him. As Morpheus is walking and talking on the busy street, Neo is trying to keep up, looking and absorbing all that is around him. Morpheus picks up on Neo's energy and calls out the shift in Neo's attention, "Were you listening to me Neo? Or were you looking at the woman in the red dress?" This scene continues to support me in summoning up the power to pause. Wouldn't it be GREAT to pause life sometimes and take a look?
You can. Whether it's through journaling, walking, or sitting for a series of moments, you can stop everything and take stock of all that is around you. Morpheus breaks The Matrix down for Neo. (Didactic learning work here) and then there's a little space for Neo to take it all in and Morpheus recognizes Neo's capacity for greater things - a hero. We can look at the soulful, spiritual, thoughtful, playful, and dreadful aspects of an idea or thought and circle back to what is truly important right now.
For Neo, it was shifting to learning mode and not sheeple mode.
For you, what can you shift to after a pause and reflection?
Here's a few steps to get started:
Repeat in 5-7 days.
I'm interested to know how it went.
Leave me a comment or schedule time to chat!
Keep looking, learning, and moving on.
I've been waiting for Denis Villeneuve's take on Dune. I've enjoyed this story since watching the David Lynch version numerous times over and over again. Reading the book helped me understand some of the deeper messages that were missed in the Lynch film...and which were explored to a greater degree in the new movie. For me, the Litany Against Fear has helped me so many times in my life, I can't even count it. I can outline when I do employ it.
1) Competitive Moments
Whenever I was challenged for first seat in concert band or competing in a speech and debate tournament, I would utter the words before I hit the drum or said my speech. As much as I practiced, there was always a level of uncertainty on how well I would perform. Would I be able to summon up the proper passion and purpose to convey the piece as I imagined, as it should be? What if I hear someone play the piece better or a better speech? What if I miss a note or stumble a word? What if I dropped my sticks...or my argument faltered? There were so many scenarios dancing around in my head. Uttering the words helped me focus on the task at hand. And the task was to play or speak and compete.
2) Medical Moments
Health issues always bring a level of anxiety for me. Especially when the health issue may be chronic in nature. Will the pain ever go away? Will the symptoms dissipate? What will the doctor say this time or next time? Will I ever feel like myself again? Can I wear what I want to wear without feeling so self conscious about the scars? The worry. It hovers and there is nothing you can do while it surrounds you like a blanket not quite touching you. It's just messing you a little bit. A wisp of worry in your head, a frightful flutter in your heart, and a feeling in the pit of your stomach. Saying the words supported me when I couldn't always hold someone's hand sitting in the doctor's office.
3) Final Word Moments
Judgements, conclusions, or decisions that are out of my hands -- these experiences led me to a fever pitch of stress. Job interviews, promotional opportunities, and getting accepted into different educational or leadership programs would take me into fearful places. Questions of worth and value swirled in my head. Should I have gone to a better school? Man, I should have not asked that one question when I did. Did I put enough on my resume? Were the words I chose not formal enough? How many better qualified candidates can there be? Whispering the words offered me a sense of what I can control...my breath and my thoughts.
When the brain veers off into fear, doubt, worry, and stress, it's doing what it's supposed to do -- protect you from danger. We're all programmed to feel it. What's different? The source. Developing the skill to respond accordingly to the source takes time. For me, these few sentences helped me build a foundation of recognizing levels of uncertainty as well as levels of agency -- what I can control. Leading with my breath, taking what is before me all in, and then closing my eyes to settle into what I need to discern and inform me on what to do next. Is it to play? Is it to speak? Is it to listen? Is it to say "Yes"? Is it to say "No"? Is it to just be? Is it to flow?
The precious seconds I give myself while I say the words allow me to shift my focus and perspective into an action that serves me. Although I've been practicing this since 1987 (Thank you to Kyle MacLachlan for saying them so well in the first movie that I watched over and over again), it wasn't until 17 years later in 2004 did I realize how and when I employed it. I'm grateful for this tool in my calming toolkit. What's most special is how I see it's usefulness passed down from Lady Jessica to Paul in the new movie where both mother and son say it in concert as well as independently from one another -- how each character experiences the same feelings and leverage the words when needed.
If Dune inspires you...and you need a virtual hand hold, try this practice out.
Litany Against Fear
“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
It was 1999 and I remember watching trailers for Fight Club. I was struck with its themes of identity, life’s purpose, and honestly, quite confused – a movie about dudes fighting for no reason? As a fan of Helena Bonham Carter, I was truly excited to see her play a non-period piece role -- which up until this point, many of them were period piece roles and had Ms. Bonham Carter in a corset. A Room with a View – the movie that jump started my Merchant Ivory fascination and Helena Bonham Carter fandom – CHECK. Hazard of Hearts – check. Lady Jane – check. Maurice – check. Hamlet – check. Howard’s End – CHECK! The Wings of a Dove – check. I watched many of her movies and always enjoyed her performances. Her presence, her commitment to the role, to the words, and just bringing the character to life was incredible to watch – and still is, hello The Crown. I was intrigued when I saw her in the trailer. Not to mention the lines – “your life ending one minute at a time”, “what piece of furniture defines you” and a sense of foreboding that is this what I have to look forward to – never feeling like I was enough? I was 25 years old living in the Bay Area of Northern California struggling to make rent -- which was $500 a month for a basement studio underneath a main house in Hayward. I was between relationships, wanting to get promoted, and wondering why I was feeling so sad all the time. ALL THE TIME.
What helps with my sadness? Cinema. Films. Movies are an escape from the real world for me – especially when I see a movie in a theater. I can disappear for 2-3 hours and sit in the dark, anonymously amongst others and laugh, cry, and think about what I am watching. After pulling together enough money, I went to see Fight Club and I was astonished from the jump. Watching the opening sequence with the brain firing up, I became more mindful of the brain’s response to stimuli. In this case (and based on some IMDB trivia), the pathways demonstrated the narrator’s response to fear. And pretty much after that, the whole movie deals with that response to fear, authority, purpose, self, and relationships with others. I have mixed feelings with the violence, edgy pillow talk, and Project Mayhem – but there are a few key takeaways that ignited my curiosity about the mind and the mindset. And as I embark on my life and mindset coaching work, the call back to this movie seems appropriate and worth a pause and reflect moment.
When I heard this line, I knew I could never forget it. The grind and hustle culture endures. Not taking time to understand your life’s purpose or your calling can be a hindrance to your joy. We think we can buy happiness. We think owning certain things will fill a void. In this movie, we can see that this is not the case. Fight Clubs and Project Mayhems aren’t my source of joy – the lesson to seek joy or that feeling of aliveness – that is what resonated then, and still does now.
Chuck Palahniuk’s debut novel contains unforgettable lines. His amazing way of capturing everyday conversations, weird happenings, and orchestrating a narrative that played out well in the book meant that this movie could pull the whole thing off cinematically – and it did. When the camera pans around the circle of fighters and before the first fight, the rules are said allowed. As the first rule is said, my immediate reaction is, “Hell yeah I am going to talk about Fight Club!” In the not talking about the subject, your behavior, your posture, and your temperament speaks volumes. Your presence brings forth that joy and excitement into other areas. We’re not processing feelings here – we are taking action on the feelings. Again, Fight Clubs and Project Mayhems aren’t my source of action – the lesson is to put an action behind what you dream about – that is what resonated then, and still does now.
Movie Image from
Fight Club -
Jack and Marla looking out a high rise window.
This was the moment in the movie that pulled it all together. When The Pixies’ song, “Where is my mind?” came on with Jack and Marla looking at the window watching the buildings crumble – it brought the metaphor of breaking down all my sadness to begin again. When you have things taken away – the conveniences, the crutch, the go-tos, the band aid solutions – what are you left with? Diving into the mind – understanding your energy and where it is flowing, attention will go. Minding the mindset became very clear here. I’ll say it one final time, Fight Clubs and Project Mayhems aren’t where my energy lies – but it illustrates where you point your attention, things become attainable.
With a play on the song title, I often ask myself, “What is my mindset? Right now? Where is my mindset?” Whenever I consider my mindset first, I set the stage for what comes next. There is something poetic about that brief pause and reflection to set up and follow through on something. It’s that call to occupy a certain space, execute and enable the necessary skills, and move forward with action.
My name isn’t Robert Paulson. My name is Elaine…and thanks for reading my first blog-flection - highlighting movies (or books or shows) that offer me lessons in life, leadership, and parenting.
Elaine Dizon is a Filipina American Life and Mindset Coach, speaker, storyteller, mother, and runner. She is also a recognized Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Champion at AT&T. In her coaching practice, life-intention-action, she uses an iterative approach to support her clients in deepening their core values, tapping into their inner wisdom, and creating habits and rituals that support their goals. She helps clients get out of their own way, move past stopping points, and to reckon with fixed mindsets that disrupt showing up authentically in professional and personal spaces through brain training exercises and tools geared towards mindfulness.